update OpenTelemetry dependencies and grpc

This update dropped the otelgrpc → cloud.google.com/go/compute dependency,
among others. This dropped out because genproto cleaned up it's dependencies
on google cloud libraries, and otel updated - details in #113366.

Signed-off-by: Davanum Srinivas <davanum@gmail.com>
Co-Authored-By: David Ashpole <dashpole@google.com>

vendor/google.golang.org/grpc/balancer/balancer.go

@@ -54,13 +54,14 @@ var (
 // an init() function), and is not thread-safe. If multiple Balancers are
 // registered with the same name, the one registered last will take effect.
 func Register(b Builder) {
-	if strings.ToLower(b.Name()) != b.Name() {
+	name := strings.ToLower(b.Name())
+	if name != b.Name() {
 		// TODO: Skip the use of strings.ToLower() to index the map after v1.59
 		// is released to switch to case sensitive balancer registry. Also,
 		// remove this warning and update the docstrings for Register and Get.
 		logger.Warningf("Balancer registered with name %q. grpc-go will be switching to case sensitive balancer registries soon", b.Name())
 	}
-	m[strings.ToLower(b.Name())] = b
+	m[name] = b
 }
 
 // unregisterForTesting deletes the balancer with the given name from the
@@ -232,8 +233,8 @@ type BuildOptions struct {
 	// implementations which do not communicate with a remote load balancer
 	// server can ignore this field.
 	Authority string
-	// ChannelzParentID is the parent ClientConn's channelz ID.
-	ChannelzParentID *channelz.Identifier
+	// ChannelzParent is the parent ClientConn's channelz channel.
+	ChannelzParent channelz.Identifier
 	// CustomUserAgent is the custom user agent set on the parent ClientConn.
 	// The balancer should set the same custom user agent if it creates a
 	// ClientConn.