Automatic merge from submit-queue (batch tested with PRs 41984, 41682, 41924, 41928)
RC/RS: Fully Respect ControllerRef
**What this PR does / why we need it**:
This is part of the completion of the [ControllerRef](https://github.com/kubernetes/community/blob/master/contributors/design-proposals/controller-ref.md) proposal. It brings ReplicaSet and ReplicationController into full compliance with ControllerRef. See the individual commit messages for details.
**Which issue this PR fixes**:
Although RC/RS had partially implemented ControllerRef, they didn't use it to determine which controller to sync, or to update expectations. This could lead to instability or controllers getting stuck.
Ref: https://github.com/kubernetes/kubernetes/issues/24433
**Special notes for your reviewer**:
**Release note**:
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