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Add the ability to lock on ConfigMaps to support HA for self hosted components
**What this PR does / why we need it**:
This PR add the ability to lock on ConfigMap objects. As we self-host more and more components, ConfigMaps provides a useful resource to lock on that applies to just the component that is being added.
This allows components such as scheduler+controller manager, etc. to have a simple mechanism to allow to active-passive HA without the cost of endpoint updates.
**Related Issues**
xref: https://github.com/kubernetes/client-go/issues/28
**Special notes for your reviewer**:
We may want to deprecate endpoints locking at some point.
**Release note**:
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Add the ability to lock on ConfigMaps to support HA for self hosted components
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