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Don't panic on unexpected group version for mutated selector
**What this PR does / why we need it**:
`panic` on unknown group version will crash the whole apiserver (even when selector isn't mutated), have a single resource affect the whole cluster, and make debugging harder. ~Return an internal error (i.e. not user error) instead.~ Make "selector immutability" the default behavior instead.
**Which issue(s) this PR fixes**:
ref #54575
**Special notes for your reviewer**: @kubernetes/sig-apps-bugs @liggitt
**Release note**:
```release-note
NONE
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