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improve memory footprint of daemonset simulate
**What this PR does / why we need it**:
This is an alternative for https://github.com/kubernetes/kubernetes/pull/64915 (it might be not needed if that PR will merge)
During memory profiling of OpenShift, we noticed a significant amount of object allocations done by `IsControlledBy()`. @sttts found that the `GetObjectReferences()` method is doing a deep-copy of the object references.
This PR simplify the `IsControlledBy()` to just iterate over the ownerRefs, without copying them.
**Release note**:
```release-note
NONE
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